Our last day in the hospital after giving birth to our first child was bittersweet. To be honest with you, I didn’t want to do home. I got so used to having the nurses there to help me that I didn’t want to leave. They kept reassuring us that if we felt we needed to stay an extra day, we could (reason being was I was having a tough time breastfeeding). Even though I wanted to stay longer, I knew that we, my husband and I, would eventually have to face the music of taking care of a newborn without their help.
Anxiousness flooded my whole body as I pack my things to leave the hospital. I was getting ready to embark on the journey of motherhood. Not knowing what was going to happen after we got home sent a sense of fear through me.
Our first day home with our newborn was quite terrifying. I didn’t know what to do or where to even begin. I felt completely lost. I laid him in his crib, sat on the bed slowly (I had to get some stitches down there…), and bawled my eyes out! Worry flooded my mind.
“How am I supposed to take care of this little one?”
“Am I going to be able to be a good parent?”
“I don’t know if I can do this!”
Those thoughts ran rampant through my mind for quite some time.
Every day, it seemed as though there was something new for me to learn. Like, distinguishing cries. Was he hungry? Did he need his diaper changed? Was he in need of some attention? That was the toughest thing for me to learn and adjust to in my first year of motherhood.
Postpartum depression hit me hard (I’ll have a post on that later). It took everything in me not to succumb to my ever-changing emotions. Although it was tough to get past that period of intense sadness and thoughts of not being a good mom, I knew that our baby boy needed plenty of love, attention, and care. I pulled myself together to the best of my abilities and prayed my way through my first year of motherhood.
I was not perfect in my first year as a mom, but I did my very best. Being that I was (and still am) a stay-at-home mom, I was with him the majority of the time. I developed some simple techniques that helped me out TREMENDOUSLY throughout my first year as a mom, and even now that we have two kids.
Note To All Expecting Moms and New Moms: Don’t be so harsh on yourselves! Bringing a baby into this world is, by far, the most painful and exciting thing ever. Before I share with you my tips on making through the first year as a mom, I want to say that patience is the key to making it through. Patience and a whole lot of prayer! You can get through it! Stay positive and never be afraid to ask questions.Nieshia of Armored With Faith
Three Tips For Making It Through The First Year Of Motherhood!
1. BE PATIENT WITH YOUR NEWBORN AND YOURSELF!
Like I mentioned before, patience is the key to making it through the first year of motherhood. If you lack in the patience department, do your best to work on it before your baby enters the world. I was not a patient person. After giving birth and learning how to properly take care of a child, I learned quickly that you get better results when you’re patient and calm. Just like you, your baby is learning. Enjoy every moment that you get to be with your little one.
2. USE YOUR BABY’S NAP TIMES WISELY!!
When your baby naps, use that time to do one of few things:
-Take a nap
-Read a good book
-Make yourself a snack / prepare a meal
-Take a nap (oh, did I say that already???)
Use that downtime wisely!!
3. SLEEP WHEN YOU CAN!!
I cannot stress this enough. I know it’s mentioned in the last tip, but I must repeat it. Sleep is imperative when it comes to taking care of a little one. I can’t even explain how exhausted I was my first year as a mom. I didn’t utilize our son’s nap times to rest and I SUFFERED! I remember falling asleep as I was feeding him on several occasions. I also remember being extra irritable on those days when I barely got a couple hours of sleep. SLEEP WHEN YOU CAN!! PLEASE!!
Being a mom is definitely not an easy job; but, I can assure you that it is the best job out there. There will be times when you feel as though you aren’t doing a good enough job as a mom. In those times, take a few deep breaths, and repeat these next few lines:
“I am a great mother!”
“I am doing the best I can!”
“I enjoy being a mother!”
You’ve got this!
For you expecting moms out there, how are you feeling about becoming a mom? Are you scared? Excited? Mixed feelings?
For you seasoned moms, what’s some advice you can give to those expecting first-time moms?