Hi, and welcome back! I hope you’re well and continuously striving towards greatness.
I was riding in the car the other day with the kids, and I began to think about middle school for some odd reason. Now, middle school was rough for me. It became especially tough in seventh grade when a guy I had a crush on called me out on my looks in front of the entire class.
Oh, No He Didn’t!
When I first laid eyes on him, I thought he was the cutest thing to walk down those middle school halls. He was the new guy at school, and most of the girls that saw him immediately wanted to get to know him more. To my surprise, he ended up in two of my classes.
On this particular day, I made the mistake of informing this girl who was supposed to be my friend that I had a tiny crush on the new guy and made her promise that she wouldn’t tell him. She promised, and we went on about our day.
As soon as we got to gym class, the other class I shared with him and my “friend,” I felt something was a bit off. She acted strange like she told something and didn’t want me to know about it. I, harshly, found out at the end of class why she was acting strange.
At the end of class, the class was standing in line waiting for the bell to release us when the guy I had a crush on said something that hurt me. My so-called friend was attempting to get him to come closer to me, but he flat-out refused and hurled these hurtful words in my direction:
“I already have a girlfriend. Plus, she’s ugly as hell.”
To say that I was embarrassed would be an understatement. I held my tears and shame for as long as I could. When I got home, I burst into tears. For years after that incident, I had a hard time seeing myself as pretty.
As I look back on that incident, I laugh and thank God that he did think I was “ugly.” Yes, he hurt my feelings, but that rejection was for a reason. The guy turned out to be of no good and hung out with the wrong crowd. That’s not what I wanted/needed in my life.
Please understand that not everyone you come across will think you’re ugly. Not everyone you come across is going to believe you are pretty. You know what? That is perfectly fine. As long as you know that you are an amazing woman with lots to offer, that’s what matters.
For those of you who may feel like you’re unattractive, I would like to know that you are beautiful! I don’t care what anybody says about you; you need to see for yourself that you are an attractive person.
I have some affirmations I would like to share with you to say those days when you don’t feel attractive. Say them and believe them! I want you to stand in front of a mirror, look yourself right in the eyes, and say these affirmations aloud.
Sis, you are beautiful!
Say those affirmations out loud and believe them! You are beautiful and don’t you ever forget it!