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From Ugly Duckling To Beautiful Swan
We all have those days when we don’t feel attractive. Those days make you want to stay inside the house because the fear of someone else seeing your unattractiveness is too much to bear.
Ever since I was in middle school, it was tough to see myself as beautiful. I was considered “ugly” by most of the guys around me. Their views caused me to go into this funk that took me years to shake. Instead of having more awareness of my natural beauty, I saw myself as ugly.
I was well into adulthood when I began to see myself as someone worth seeing. I grew tired of relying on others to see me as pretty. I longed to be able to wake up every morning, look into the bathroom mirror, and say, “Nieshia, you are gorgeous!” Instead of waiting on compliments, I started to compliment myself.
I would wake up in the mornings and say something that I loved about myself. I took better care of my body, mind, and spirit. I began to wear clothes that I thought someone as fluffy as me couldn’t wear (high-waisted jeans, crop tops, dresses that showed my big, beautiful legs). I even started wearing a little make-up (not every day, though, because I like my natural skin).
It took a lot of trial and error to get to the confidence I have today. Do I struggle with it from time to time? Yes! When I have those days of feeling blah, I remember all of the work it took to get to where I am and pull myself together. There’s still work to do, but I’m happy to be on the right track.
“Your beauty is unique! Learn to love the way God made you.”Nieshia
I encourage all of you beautiful women who have a tough time seeing themselves as beautiful to know that your beauty is unique. Understand that everyone isn’t going to think you’re attractive. But, guess what? That’s their issue, not yours.
I have a challenge for you. Next month, I would like you to do two things.
For the next month, take a photo of yourself every day. Don’t worry about editing or sharing it online. Create a new folder on your phone for these photos. The goal is for you to be able to see and appreciate your uniqueness.
Write down one thing you love about yourself daily. Acknowledge your strengths, grow in the areas you’re weak in, and embrace how God made you! Physically writing down the things that you love about yourself gives you a bit of a confidence boost.
These two exercises will aid in the boost of your self-confidence. By the end of this challenge, I hope that you can see yourself as the beautiful woman that you are.
Daily Journaling Prompts
- In this current moment, how am I feeling? Why?
- What’s one feature about yourself that you love? Why?
- Have you ever been called “ugly”? If so, how did that shape the way you saw yourself?
- Write down three things you love about yourself.