Welcome back to another blog by me, Nieshia! This is the first blog I’ve written in such a long time. I’m thankful to be back (insert mini praise session!)! Words cannot explain how happy I am to be back to doing something I genuinely enjoy; writing/blogging.
-From Turmoil to Pure Peace-
I never knew how much I needed a solid relationship with God until last month. Don’t get me wrong, I had a relationship with God and a stable prayer life before, but it came in handy in October.
Before the incident, I had been praying that God would give me directions on what I needed to do and where I stood with some people. Let me be the first to say to be prepared for what you’re praying for because God has this incredible, mysterious way of answering you.
There have been a lot of misunderstandings and disputes between me and someone reasonably close to me. It came to a head on the fourth of October. Stress, accusations, loud arguments, and shocking revelations caused me to look at this person differently.
After hours of turmoil, I got in bed and cried. I blamed myself for everything. It kept coming into my head, “If only you would’ve made better decisions, you wouldn’t be in this mess!” I sat in that pity for a few minutes before God’s peace covered me.
Let me tell you something; I have never felt this feeling ever in my life. The stress I was feeling was gone. The fear and anger I was feeling were gone. When I thought God wasn’t there with me, He showed up and covered me in His peace.
In that moment of turmoil, God showed up for me. For that, I am forever thankful! From that day, I made a vow to fully trust God and move the way He needs me to.
-Life Lessons to Consider-
These three life lessons are imperative for us to take into consideration.
Learn from my mistakes!
Get Counseling (If you need it)!
I received my first-ever counseling session, and I cannot believe I waited this long to get it. Before starting, I contemplated conjuring up this false story about myself because I didn’t want my counselor to look at me strangely. I was a bit fearful of what he would think of me. I got over that fear and was able to open up. Once the words began to flow, they couldn’t stop.
I was able to share my story and get some valuable advice and tools. One of those tools that I’ve loved lately is the book “Crucial Conversations.” If you haven’t already read that book, please read it! I one hundred percent recommend it! The purpose of Crucial Conversations is to help you navigate and communicate effectively, especially during crucial conversations.
If you’re like me and have some past trauma and pain, please seek counseling to help you through that trauma. It may seem scary, or you fear opening up to a stranger. Trust me; it’s worth it!
Learn to Set Boundaries!
I beg of you!
Learn how to set boundaries!
When you don’t set boundaries, people will walk all over you; you may find yourself people-pleasing, and others may make it a habit of disrespecting you.
It’s time that you learn to use your voice and set boundaries (especially in romantic relationships and friendships). Here are some tips for you to use to help you set meaningful boundaries:
-Know your values
-Understand what you will and will not stand for
-Build confidence in yourself
-Rely on God to help you discern who you need around you and who you need to rid yourself of
Last but not least, trust God!
He knows what’s best for you. He cares for you. Romans 5:8 says, “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
In those moments of trouble, go to God! In those moments of happiness, give God thanks! In everything that you do, allow God into those moments.
-Quick Encouragement (Plus A “Yay” Moment)-
It’s important that despite the storm you’re going through, find something to be thankful for! It’s so easy to get caught up in the mess and struggle that we fail to acknowledge the good that may be going on around us. It can be a struggle when you’re going through challenges to find something to be thankful, but I encourage you to find something, rather big or small, to be thankful for.
-Journaling Prompts & Scriptures To Study-
Scriptures to Study
- Romans 5:8
- 1 John 3:1
- 1 John 4:9-10
- 1 John 4:19
- What are you thankful for today? Why?
- How do you cope with feelings of worry and anxiety?
- What are some ways that you set boundaries (and stick with them) in your friendships and romantic relationship?
- At this moment, how are you feeling? Why?
-Before You Go-
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